As a dual country couple going through the immigration process, planning in advance is something we pretty much have to do. From the biggies like the wedding, to the small things like a cell phone plan and about a million things in between, all of it has to be planned to an extent. For some people, this wouldn’t be that much of an issue. However, before this endeavor, I rarely planned a thing. I’m finding that this whole process is really changing my life, from the influx of planning to the shear amount of research I’m doing. I just hope that it’s changing me for the better.

It’s because of this that I’m starting to get resentful of regular couples. For them, living together and getting married require no real effort on their part – they meet, fall in love, move in/marry, all is well and good. For B and I, things haven’t ever been (or will be) that simple. We have to actively prove we are in a “real” relationship. For the first stage of the process, we have to have actual proof of meetings and couple-y things. For the second part of the process, we have to show how we’ve co-mingled not only our lives, but our finances and just about everything.

For proof of a real relationship, immigration will look at not only our living situation when he finally gets here, but at whose name(s) are on the bills (water, electric, phone, rent/mortgage, etc); health & life insurance policies, bank/savings accounts. They will end up scouring our lives looking at everything, trying to make sure we’re not committing fraud.

Because of this, all the (seemingly) small things keep popping up in my head. Cell phones. While this would typically be an easy deal, either get a family plan or get your own plans, we are kind of forced into the family plan. I’m researching the different providers we have (ATT – my current provider, Verizon, T-Mobile). And yeah, financially it sounds about right to get the family plan. But seeing as though we need as many bills/documents/etc in both our names for this process, it’s forcing our hand.

Unfortunately, there’s not that much I (or we) can go ahead and do. For many things, especially anything financial, he’ll need a social. He can only get that after he officially crosses the border. So it’s looking like the first couple of weeks of him being here will be us running all over town trying to get things put in both our names.

However, the cell phone thing has been mostly figured out. His Christmas present will be a new (American) phone and he’ll get it when I come up for the interview. A week or so before, I’ll get the plan changed to a family one, add his name to the bill and get his phone. So that’s one thing that we can check off our endless list.